Loners aren't losers. Get it right. (Fashion Blog Post)

See the beautiful house behind me?

It's not ours.

I was only standing there for good lighting. Our new place is a much less expensive and much more modest home in a nearby neighborhood. Regardless, we're in the suburb now. 

Suburb? NEVER!!!!!!!!

If you asked me to live in the suburb five years ago, I would have said, "over my dead body!" Suburbs are boring. They're for loners. Yet here I am, 35 and seeking the type of solitude only a suburban lifestyle could offer.

I wanted to move out of the city -- and not for a bigger backyard either. According to the developers we talked to, city ordinance of our new town requires lots to be much smaller due to the population pressure from nearby townships. I love how Seattle is growing and thriving!

We've been here for a few weeks now. I like our miniature backyard. I like the loner lifestyle.

But loners are losers!

No they are not. Nor are they anti-social, depressed or psychotic. Going against the grain of modern interpretation of happiness -- a group of well-dressed friends laughing and conversing at some posh bar -- loners are perfectly normal human beings who simply wish to unplug from the world.

In fact, being a loner is healthy.

According to Psychology Today, you should spend time alone, especially with today's never-ending texts, emails, social media -- and therefore social pressure -- keeping you "on" all the time. A little solitude does a lot of good -- by rebooting the brain, increasing concentration, performing self-assessment, solving problems more efficiently, and enhancing the quality of existing relationships. (Source: 6 Reasons You Should Spend Time Alone)

Of course complete seclusion produces an out-of-touch, self-absorbed individual. I guess they're more like "extreme loners." Or weirdos. A normal loner isn't completely alone. Instead, he or she prefers hobbies over social events, deep conversation over meaningless chatter, and few real friends over a pack of mediocre ones.

And if you're a proud loner like me...

You'll find yourself socializing once in a while still, and going in the city too.

Don't expect me to hang around forever, but do expect quality time. 

And is today's outfit a loner's uniform?

Yes it is. It's gray; it's boring; it's loner indeed.

But hey, it's okay. 

 

I like being a loner, and I like dressing the part.

How about you? Are you a loner too?