Don't Be A Catty Blogger (Fashion Blog Post)

I was reading a fashion forum today...

It's a high-traffic forum. I won't state the name. 

The cattiness exploded like a ton of C4's: some petite blogger was accused of plagiarizing others. (I'm not intimate with the circumstances, but do question how one can plagiarize outfits?) Anyway, mean comments about her just poured in: "she's pathetic," "she's sad," etc.

Then the cattiness snowballed into bizarrely off-topic conversations, like making fun of a mom blogger for wearing leather pants, and calling bloggers stupid for creating girlie URL's. 

Please don't look at my URL.

Sh*t. You looked.

If the real world is tough, then blogosphere is 10 times tougher.

23 housemates. Half a fight.

Nelly* didn't want me doing situps in the TV room, so she sat on me. I then retaliated by squeezing her left boob. 

It was my first and only fight in the sorority house. (I consider it half a fight, because it lasted like...half a minute.)

Afterwards, I reached out to Nelly with an apology. She glared at me for a week--a passive-aggressive way of being catty, I suppose.

Eventually, Nelly realized that glaring didn't do much good, and reconciled with me. The two of us even became good friends. Had I returned "fire" though, we'd still be glaring at each other.

A childish and unnecessary incident, the fight taught me two lessons: 1) Don't touch other people's privates. 2) Cattiness gets you nowhere.

Our sorority housed 23 sisters that year. I witnessed plenty of cat fights, but somehow managed to escape with only half a scratch.

How did I do it?

Apologize and walk away. 

I'm sorry for ... Let's move on. (Or something along those lines.)

Why? 

Because apologizing takes courage, and shows that you're the bigger person; and walking away is a sign of strength, and a way to stand up for yourself.

It's like saying: whatever happened sucks. I've learned from it, and moved on. How about you?

If the opposite party becomes malicious, spreads vicious rumors behind your back, throws catty remarks when you get together, or writes mean comments on your blog anonymously (oh the joy of blogosphere), what do you do?

YOU. DON'T. CARE. 

You've already walked away, and therefore, they don't exist. 

What for?

What is all this cattiness for anyway?

It doesn't make you grow as a person; it doesn't make you smart, or strong, or successful; It doesn't make your blog better, or your fashion sense wiser.

What it does do is offer you temporary satisfaction. In my book, minute minutes of victory is a lifetime of emptiness.

 

Don't be a catty blogger. 

Because, again, cattiness gets you nowhere. Not even in blogsphere.

If someone victimizes you, just say, "sorry you feel that way," and walk away. 

Always have enough respect for yourself to walk away from anything that doesn't make you grow.

What you could do instead...

is support and encourage each other to be better bloggers. You have one life to live, why not make every experience, blogging included, richer?

And if you have the urge to express opinions towards someone, don't be passive agressive about it. (You too, anonymous commenter.) Have the audacity to email or ID yourself in comments.

Here comes the fashion part of this blog post: WEAR LEOPARD!

 

If you can't be a catty blogger, why don't you dress the part?

 

Leopard is a part of the Felidae Family, or "big cats," and is known for possessing speed and stealth. 

 

Now don't you want to look as bad-ass as this cat?